– Couples And relational Therapy in California
Guiding relationships
toward healthful growth.
Relational and couples therapy for partners, co-parents, and individuals seeking deeper connection, healthier ways of engaging with one another, and meaningful change in their relationships. I work with clients across diverse identities, relationship structures, and family configurations throughout the San Francisco Bay Area and California via telehealth.
Relational dynamics we explore
Recurring conflict
understanding your dance,
accepting influence, repair
Communication patterns
empathy, nonverbal awareness,
firm but kind expression
Emotional disconnection
feeling stuck, restoring hope,
finding each other again
Intimacy & closeness
emotional, sexual, spiritual
Trust & secrecy
honesty, accountability,
rebuilding trust
Parenting & co-parenting
kids of all ages, shared responsibility,
family transitions
Identity & personal growth
values, boundaries,
relational needs
Emotional awareness
mind/body connection,
allowing emotions, compassion
Shared meaning
purpose, teamwork,
life transitions
Relational trauma
complex trauma, grief,
generational patterns
Twins & siblings
identity development,
differentiation, lifelong bonds
Challenging relational biases
sexism, racism, ableism,
homophobia, transphobia
A personalized approach
Gain insight into
relational patterns
Understand how you show up in relationships and notice recurring patterns that keep you feeling stuck. Explore how your past influences the present, including your history, thoughts, feelings, body sensations, behaviors, and broader ecological factors. With compassion, address challenges related to security, identity, mental health, and inequities. Begin to heal and repair what’s needed.
Trauma-informed
healing and skills
Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and the Gottman Method, grounded in decades of research, strengthen relational interactions and emotional connection. Pair with Internal Family Systems (IFS) and mindful self-compassion to support healing of wounded parts and regulate your mind/body. Together, these approaches deepen relational awareness, improve co-regulation, and support healthier togetherness.
Goal-driven practice,
progress and change
Growth happens in the small, everyday moments when we choose to take healthy risks and approach relational challenges differently. Turn insights and skills into practice by rewiring automatic reactions into intentional responses. Work daily to build new patterns that support flexibility, repair, and effective problem-solving in your life and relationships, while making space for humor, play, and creativity.
– About Me
Hi, I’m Alli…
A trauma-informed relational therapist, passionate about cultivating meaningful connections with ourselves and others. I believe loving relationships are the foundation of good health and a life well-lived. Whether you come solo, with loved ones, or as a group, I am here for you.
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